Hrabra mama i izazov – Preplavljenost izazovima i obavezama koje roditeljstvo nosi

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I accidentally came across and discovered this Brave Mom Laura, whose work helped me a lot. If you are familiar with her work, you already know what I’m talking about, if you are not – read this text about her and see what she has highlighted for us.

I am very pleased and very grateful that this Brave Mom has set aside time for us and through participation supported the idea of Brave Moms.

1. In short – who are you?

I am Dr. Laura Markham, the author of two books, Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How To Stop Yelling and Start Connecting, and Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings: How to Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life. I have a third book coming out in February: The Peaceful Parent Workbook: Using mindfulness, connection, and coaching to heal yourself, rediscover the joy in parenting and raise emotionally intelligent children. I also teach an online course for parents all over the world, called The Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids Online Course. You can find me online at http://AhaParenting.com. Hello to parents in Serbia! I am delighted to meet you!

 

2. Parental challenge you succesffuly overcame and how?

I used to feel overwhelmed by the relentlessness of being a parent. When I began meditating, I found that even though it took time, I felt so much better that I did not feel overwhelmed. I felt more present and connected. I did less, but I did the important things. And I enjoyed them more.

 

3. Parental challenge you are still struggling with?

I miss my children! My daughter is at university. My son has graduated from university and is working in the town where he went to school. I miss them every day.

 

4. Your MOM’S TIME

I’m not sure I know what you mean. If you are asking what I do to calm down, I meditate.

If you are asking what I do for fun, I meditate, garden, kayak, do yoga, walk, and read. Mostly, I read about parenting and psychology!

 

5. Previous Brave mom’s question: What’s the most unexpected thing that parenthood brought to you? ‘

I began working with other parents! I was already studying to be a psychologist when my son was born, but I did not know then that I would make it my life mission to support other parents. It was as a new parent with a baby that I realized that parents are doing the hardest job in the world, and they don’t have enough support.

 

Pose a question to a next Brave mom:

What kind of support could you give yourself to be the parent you really want to be, more often?

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Evo i prevoda.

Slučajno sam naišla na ovu Hrabru mamu Lauru čiji mi je rad lično mnogo pomogao. Ukoliko ste upoznati sa njenim radom, znate o čemu vam pričam, ukoliko niste – pročitajte ovaj tekst o njoj i šta je to ona izdvojila za nas.

Veoma mi je drago i veoma sam zahvalna što je ova Hrabra mama izdvojila svoje vreme i svojim učešćem podržala ideju o Hrabrim mamama.

 

O čemu su sve do sada pisale Hrabre mame pročitajte klikom ovde.

Pročitajte i podelite ovaj tekst ukoliko znate neku mamu kojoj trebaju baš ove reči podrške.

 

1. Ukratko – ko si ti?

Ja sam dr Laura Markham, autorka dve knjige: „Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How To Stop Yelling and Start Connecting“ i „Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings: How to Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life“. Treća knjiga mi izlazi u februaru: „The Peaceful Parent Workbook: Using mindfulness, connection, and coaching to heal yourself, rediscover the joy in parenting and raise emotionally intelligent children“. Takođe putem online kursa pod nazivom „Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids“ podučavam  roditelje širom sveta. Možete me naći online na http://AhaParenting.com. Pozdrav roditeljima u Srbiji! Drago mi je što smo se upoznali!

 

2. Roditeljski izazov sa kojim si se izborila i kako?

Osećala sam se preplavljena svim izazovima i obavezama koje roditeljstvo nosi. Kada sam počela da meditiram, iako mi je trebalo dosta vremena, shvatila sam da se osećammnogo bolje jer se ne osećam preplavljeno. Osećala sam se više prisutnom i povezanom. Radila sam manje, ali radila važne stvari. I uživala u njima više.

 

3. Roditeljski izazov sa kojim se i dalje „boriš“?

Nedostaju mi moja deca! Moja ćerka je na univerzitetu. Moj sin je diplomirao na univerzitetu i radi u gradu u kojem je išao u školu. Nedostaju mi svakog dana.

 

4. Tvoje MAMINO VREME.

Nisam siguran da sam razumela na šta mislite. Ako me pitate šta da radim da bih se opustila, ja meditiram.

Ako me pitate šta radim zbog zabave, ja meditiram, uređujem vrt, vozim kajak, radim jogu, hodam i čitam. Uglavnom, čitam o roditeljstvu i psihologiji!

 

5. Pitanje prethodne mame: Šta je najneočekivanija stvar koju ti je roditeljstvo donelo?

Počela sam da radim sa drugim roditeljima! Već sam studirala psihologiju kada se rodio moj sin, ali tada nisam znala da će mi postati  životna misija da podržavam druge roditelje. Kada sam prvi put dobila bebu shvatila sam da roditelji rade najteži posao na svetu i nemaju dovoljno podrške.

 

Postavi pitanje sledećoj Hrabroj mami:

Kakvu vrstu podrške bi mogla češće pružiti sebi da bi bila roditelj koji stvarno želiš biti?

 

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Ukoliko želite, u komentaru ispod – podelite sa nama svoje iskustvo sa izazovom iz teksta.

Takođe, možete i vi predložiti Hrabru mamu čije bi iskustvo želele da čujete. Pišite mi na kontakt@maminovreme.org i pokušaću da dobijem odgovor.

 

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Tekst uobličila Manuela Kamikovski – mama, dipl. psiholog, sistemski porodični psihoterapeut u edukaciji, asertivni trener, osnivač i urednik stranice www.maminovreme.org